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  • Jul. 8th, 2008 at 5:29 AM
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Yes, more insomnia.  So I'm thinking of all the things I want to do while I'm gainfully unemployed this summer.
  1. full motorcycle license (thanks, neptunia!)
  2. yoga/gym/run/some combo every day that I'm in London (wonder when my gym membership expires?) and maybe a yoga retreat/workshop to make some progress I can commit to.
  3. spend time, here or there, with my friend Janet (who is having a cancer flare up)
  4. get swimming lessons for the kids
  5. get my sewing maching fixed. (This website and the accompanying book just made some neuron (mis)fire and has made me want to make funky modern quilts and aprons!  Stop me before I sew again!)
  6. check out a couple of the italian hotspots I never seem to make it to (Saturnia, L'andana)
  7. maybe a cooking class at Leith's??
Must keep track of this and add a few things as they come to me!  Suggestions welcome!

I had my first negative reaction to my move last week.  I have an American friend here, married to a Brit and more integrated in many ways than me, who was less than fully impressed when she first moved to London.  I was always singing the praises of London and Europe and she's wound up fully committed here.  I think she felt tricked, let down, that I was leaving, I think she thought I was the last one who would leave.  She thinks Geneva is small and provincial and she knows someone else who moved to Zurich and was back in six months because they didn't like it.  I think she's a little pissed because I didn't share my reservations and frustrations with her re London.  The truth is, I didn't, because I wanted her to be happy and stay.  And the truth is, while going TO Geneva is a powerful part of this decision, LEAVING London is also a big part of the motivation.  London is a great city, but I don't want to be in such a big city, dealing with the crappy transport, crime (which is something relatively new to the masses), vomit on my street, not to mention the crappy weather.  I feel conflicted raising my kids here.  I have no burning desire to go back to the States either.  I also feel conflicted leaving the very strong social and professional network I have in London, but I'm confident I can keep those going from a distance.  (Part of the motivation is that we don't see much of the great friends we have here!)  I am afraid - of the transition, of putting all the work into the transition and then finding that it's not what I want.  It's hard to be a natural wanderer sometimes.  I recognize that I put a lot of (maybe too much) stock in geography.  But I accept the inconvenience and the risk of it, in hopes that there will be a lot of excitement, discovery, and constructive challenge to come out of this.  I also really believe that it will be a net positive for my kids.  I'm happy she challenged me on it, and she understood where I was coming from at the end of the conversation.  Geneva wouldn't work for her, but I do think it will work for me.

Two more weeks of work.  It's passing quick.  Even though my work is pretty organised, I want to feel like all my babies will be taken care of when I go!

How I know

  • Jul. 3rd, 2008 at 1:07 PM
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You know how I *know* that I'm doing the right thing, not with my head but with my gut? When I put on my favorite music now, melancholy by definition, it no longer makes me sad, but it makes me happy. So I feel like I'm getting back to the best of myself in making this move.

I'd stopped listening to that music lately, because it depressed me. It was one of the symptoms of my soul leaking out of me. Especially on the Tube, listening to my iPod.

We went public yesterday - email went out (and a few came back) plus some calls, etc. No turning back now. A lot of people said they are jealous and wished they could make a move like that. I know it's easier for me, because I'm already far from my family, and because I've done it before, and because my partner is at least as motivated as I am to make it work.

I'm focusing on all the new adventures, better life I'll be in 18 months out.

That said, I'm leaving a lot of good stuff on the table here. Both personally and professionally.

best hotel EVAH

  • Jun. 30th, 2008 at 10:27 PM
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I've stayed in some nice digs in my day, but this goes right up near the top of the list:
www.widderhotel.ch

All alone, but inwardly toasting whatever's next! Beauty back in my life! I'm thrilled! Now if the markets would just settle a bit....

Bonjour, Geneve!

  • Jun. 30th, 2008 at 1:15 PM
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And just like that, it's done. We're upping stakes, selling our beautiful house, casting in our lots with old friends-cum-future colleagues, and moving the whole family to Geneva in time for ski season.

It's not that I hate where I've been, but I'm really looking forward to where I'm going.

I resigned this morning, and that went as well as it possibly could have.

Coincidentally I am boarding a plane for Zurich in a couple of hours.

*spreads arms, jumps off cliffs toward blue water* (hoping not to hit a rock mid-swan-dive....)

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Age and work

  • Jun. 20th, 2008 at 9:25 AM
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I've always been entrepreneurial and a bit of a job-hopper.  I think 3 years was my longest job.  I never have trouble finding something new and lucrative - I have a good CV and I've got a good patter about it. 

But I wonder at what point age starts to get in the way of that?  One ex-colleague tried to move back to Geneva at 50 and found it very difficult to find a job.  Another friend is in her late 40s in Paris in my same industry and she urges me to keep my age (42) to myself because it will not work in my favour!

For years and years I looked way too young for the jobs I had, and I still look younger than my age (though I seem to be catching up these days!) - so I've never had a complex about this.  I'm not bothered at all about getting older, life just gets better and better as the years go by! 

But I am wondering what other people have found regarding age and job mobility, particularly in Europe. 

Obviously it depends on the specific situation - but at what point have you found it to be an issue?  What do you think drives it?  The fact that you don't "look the part" anymore?  The fact that younger people have skills that you don't (or are so perceived)?  The fact that younger people are more willing to travel, work long hours etc than you are at this point in your life?  The fact that you get senior enough in your career that there just aren't that many jobs?

Jewelry to accompany a life change

  • Jun. 20th, 2008 at 5:02 AM
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They do it in black or white, too.  I dont know if I'd wear it much once I got to Geneva, but I could wear it pretty much every day til then, to keep my eyes on the prize!!

ETA  - you'd be surprised how many cuckoo clock necklaces there are on etsy.com!!

I woke up at 4.30 too excited/nervous to sleep.  I'll be trash tonight. 

This website is making me dream at the moment: Buy a Business   in case you were wondering how to find that little cafe on the beach to run in your retirement.  I was looking on there to see if I could find a retreat center for sale.  There are some funky businesses.  A restaurant would be, in reality, too much like hard work.

I think I'll go

  • Jun. 19th, 2008 at 10:59 PM
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I'm feeling like I should go. To Geneva.  Of course I wasn't feeling that clear on it this morning.  But now I think that the worst thing that can happen is that I wind up back where I started.  It's not like I'm leaving something I can't live without (job-wise).  C is going to get his act together, and I'm sure we'll find him something good.  If the goal is to get there, then he needs to get there and get sorted out.  Also a friend and ex-colleague said to me something which I often forget - I ain't getting any younger.  Her point was that after 45 it's going to get a whole lot harder to make these kinds of moves, especially to a whole new country.  If our goal is to get out of London, this is a catalyst.  And that is our goal.

I enjoy my job when it's going well.  It's not a passion, and maybe one day I'll find a passion, but so far I've channelled most of my job passions into geography.  And that's worked pretty well for me.  As a young person I wanted to live in foreign countries, and that's definitely something that I've managed to achieve, by hook or by crook.  Now the exotica has worn off somewhat but I still love the feeling of discovery, of the little differences that still give you a thrill.  I'll love discovering the Swiss countryside, taking to the road on the weekend (with $10 gas oh well).  It's a great opportunity and I really think I should take it.

Sometimes you have to jump into the abyss and have faith that things will come together and that the hellish move won't be too too hellish.

I already called an agent to come tell us what we can rent the house for.  I do dread the move, but I'm looking forward to the arriving.

Now to search for headhunters for C.

Geneve!

  • Jun. 17th, 2008 at 9:57 PM
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On the back of a most fantastic trip to the States, which deserves a separate post - I was offered a job today in Geneva.  I have two weeks to make up my mind.  Lots of pros, but the main con is that my partner does not have a job there at the moment, so do I go without him assuming it will work out, or wait for him to find something?  *taps teeth*




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How I spent my time

  • Jun. 12th, 2008 at 2:39 AM
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Today Five meetings, which went well, and in fact I had a couple of serious compliments, a rare thing so I took them to heart! I also got to stop by Saks and get a fix of my favorite perfumes, Bond No 9 - they had a kind of taster pack and so I got that and i'll let my sisters pick something that they like. I'm normally not huge on perfumes, but I love theirs. Nouveau Bowery is my fave. I also got some other makeup while I could take advantage of the favourable exhange rate!!

Tonight I got a much needed mani/pedi (gawd esp pedi). I was possessed by the spirit of springtime and got bright hot pink, professionalism be damned!!

Then I went to sushi near my hotel and sat (alone at the bar) next to a guy (alone at the bar) who turned out to work for CNN in Paris. We chatted, which was nice. I checked out the very cool bar of the hotel here, but I'm too pooped to socialise, I'm heading for BED.

I <3 NY!! 

ps - looking for wanda's number - if you see this call me on 212-389-0686 either tonight or early tomorrow to set a meeting spot!!

My NY

  • Jun. 11th, 2008 at 12:14 PM
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I love my business trips to NY.  My colleagues think it odd that I volunteer, considering I've got two young kids at home, but for me it's a trip, in every sense of the word.  I sleep little, live a lot.

This time I am staying at a hip hotel.  This is a first.  If I had skipped the lobby experience and was blind to the high design, I would still know it's hip by the contents of the mini-bar:  EBoost (in which I've just indulged) - fizzy vitamin and vitality; intimacy kit with two condoms, antiseptice wipes (?!) and lubricant; TV channels including two "adult" channels, an all-male adult channel and a bi-adult channel (specified in the TV guide); a CD of ambient music (but careful, if you open it they charge you $23!).  There are also two sizes of flip flops, a scented candle, an iPod charger (but oddly no plug in for an ipod to the stereo system), black or white t-shirts, and a mega eye-shade.  I may have to indulge in the shades and the candle. 

I have zillions of meetings today.  Tomorrow I start at ten am downtown so I thought I'd try to meet wlotus for breakfast first.  Friday I only have one meeting and I'm heading down to atlanta.  I'm wondering if I shouldn't book a spa treatment after my meeting and go down a little later.  How often do I get to have a couple of uncommitted hours?  And in USD everything is half-price.

I don't fight the jet lag when I come. I love my mornings, esp when it's light out in the summer.  (When I come with Cedric in the winter it's good too, and we go out and watch the skaters in the park, but on my own I don't go out unless it's light.)  This morning I got up at 5:15 and by 5:30 I was out for a jog to Central Park.  No street traffic yet but plenty of joggers and cyclists.  My favorite cafe opens at six so I picked up an everything bagel and a too-hot cappucino on the way back.  I got lost (classic) and had to ask a dog-walker where my hotel was.  Got back, got ready in a leisurely manner, checked some work emails.  Now I have to get all the materials ready for my day and  get going.  It'll be an exhausting day, but I like it like that.  

Then I'm going down to Atlanta for my Dad's 70th.  I'm thrilled it worked out for me to be there.  Turns out to not be a great time to be away from home (Zoe's going under general anaesthesia for tooth extractions) - but there's never a good time to be gone.  I'm hoping that with this break Ced will have a chance to get a jump on the job stuff, though he's got a busy week.  I need him to make some symbolic progress or I  won't feel good about pursuing this other job opp.

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Linked In

  • Jun. 9th, 2008 at 12:47 PM
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 How do you use Linked In and other social networking sites professionally?  Job hunting, staying in touch?  I keep hearing how these are becoming a huge professional networking tool but I don't know anyone who is actually using it except as a kind of self-updating contact file.  Any insights?

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With all due respect

  • Jun. 6th, 2008 at 9:15 AM
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This article pretty much explains my views on the Clinton/Obama debate - I don't agree with all of it, but it kind of captures the way I see it at the moment, esp the parts I've put in bold:

What Hillary Wants Most, Hillary Won't Get: Margaret Carlson
Commentary by Margaret Carlson

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June 5 (Bloomberg) -- ``What Does Hillary Want?'' Hillary Clinton asked herself on election night. She didn't say. If Freud were answering his own question, he would say ``to be loved,'' which translates, in Clintonland, into winning.
She's not going to get that, yet even after Barack Obama had reached the magic number of delegates needed for the Democratic nomination, Clinton was introduced as ``the next president of the United States.'' She congratulated Obama but not for clinching the nomination. She directed supporters to her Web site, as if there were yet more primaries to contest.
By not making a concession, Clinton diminished Obama's victory. When Matt Lauer held up the New York Times on the ``Today'' show, Clinton campaign Chairman Terry McAuliffe refused to acknowledge it. Within 24 hours, Clinton's most ubiquitous surrogate, former White House counsel Lanny Davis, launched a petition drive to make her the vice presidential nominee.
Clinton dominates the stage now the way an upset toddler about to break into tears holds a room of adults hostage. Obama can't fully engage John McCain until he fully dispenses with Hillary Clinton.
Clinton and the women who love her deserve great respect. If you owe the bank $100, the bank owns you. If you owe the bank a million dollars, you own the bank. Applied to the Democratic primary, the million dollars would translate to almost 18 million votes. That can't be ignored.
Josey Six Pack
The New Clinton could be a big help to Obama. Late in the campaign, she turned from Ivy League feminist lawyer into Josey Six Pack. (ETA: this is one of my big problems with her, though this article paints it as a good thing!) She found a following among working-class men and older women who know what it's like to have the smooth guy pass you by on the way to the corner office.
Obama hasn't been able to pull off such a transformation. He's too cool, too thin, too unruffled. He's Whole Foods not Safeway, Starbucks not Dunkin' Donuts. You want to yell at him ``Eat the taco! It won't kill you and neither will the funnel cake. Be Bobby Kennedy not Adlai Stevenson.''
On the other hand, Clinton brings problems, not all of which were obvious in the primaries because the words impeachment, Monica, Travelgate, Paula Jones, pardons and multiple grand juries never passed Obama's lips. The past was out of bounds except for her gaining as much experience from being first lady as Al Gore did from being vice president. Will Republicans accept that no-fly zone if she's the veep nominee?
Blowing Her Lead
She also managed to take a seemingly winning hand and blow it. She had the party establishment, the big-name strategists, worldwide recognition by first name only, and a sleek fundraising machine. She had Elvis, who never seemed so devoted.
When those advantages didn't play out, she blamed everyone but herself. It was the calendar. It was party rules, even though the Clintons ran the party for eight years. It was the failure to count her wins in Michigan and Florida, even though Clinton had originally agreed they wouldn't count. It was the media being captivated by the new, new thing. It was sexism from which she's benefited as much as she's suffered.
Representative Charlie Rangel, the dean of the New York delegation who was on her side, said yesterday he was unable to explain the behavior of the ``favorite daughter.'' Until now, he believed she was just playing out the primaries to, as she said, give everyone a chance to vote. Now he wonders.
Search for Meaning
``What does it mean when you say that you are not endorsing?'' Rangel asked. ``It's inconsistent with wanting a Democratic victory and not endorsing the Democratic candidate.''
If Clinton were just any candidate with a passionate constituency, putting her on the ticket would be a one-step unity event. But she's complicated that by letting her desires be known, as does husband Bill. There was always an unknown that doesn't have to be confronted now about what it would be like to have an ex-president a pillow away from the president. What about an ex-president and vice president a few miles and a heartbeat away?
Just this week, Bill upstaged any dignified exit by his wife when he announced he was making his last campaign appearance. He then outdid himself for finger-waving anger by calling Todd Purdum, the husband of his former press secretary Dee Dee Myers, a slimy, sleazy, scumbag for a story in Vanity Fair magazine.
The Clintons may be so angry they aren't thinking clearly. They didn't realize they had stretched to the breaking point the patience of their followers for putting their own well-being above that of the party.
Debts Owed, Paid
Saying she had a ``decision'' to make rather than endorse the winner was one bridge too far. As senators and congressmen peeled away yesterday, Clinton spokesman Howard Wolfson said that Clinton will host an event in Washington later this week ``to thank her supporters and express her support for Senator Obama and party unity.''
No one who hasn't lost something they desperately wanted, who worked for it for as long as three decades, who knows almost no other life than a public one can know what it's like to be Clinton now. Wolfson's announcement came as she was throwing an 89th birthday party for her mother at her Embassy Row house. You can see Dick Cheney's place from her back lawn.

With those candles blown out, the best thing Clinton could do for herself is let the world know she doesn't feel she's owed anything. The biggest favor Obama could do for himself is to recognize that she is.



As far as I know, Hillary Clinton did not win the popular vote - when her supporters say she did, they are including results from Michigan and Florida where both candidates had agreed not to participate.  Bill Clinton has stepped in it from all directions.  Hillary is highly qualified, a competent technocrat.  She's also a one-term Senator - where is all this "experience" coming from!  And as a feminist, I would love to see a woman be elected who hasn't come in on her husband's coat-tails.  (Hillary could have been a successful politician in her own right, bt IMHO she's in the position she's in today because she's married to BC.)  I chose to vote for Obama because I'm tired of the divisiveness.  To me, her recent behaviour just confirms how divisive she really is.  I don't want a *fighter* in office.  I want to move on to whatever's next.  Is Obama an unknown quantity?  Yes, but I like what I've seen (women's rights, the way he's dealt with thorny issues) and I'll take my chances with it - Hillary is the one, to my mind, who has tried to act like something she's not, and moved to the right for political expediency.  I could use a little inspiration right now.

I enjoy a good conspiracy, but I just don't see one here.  She fought hard, she did well, but she didn't win.  My husband supports Hillary and is disappointed, but has now shifted focus to the national election.  I'm not complacent about a Democratic victory, there are plenty of people out there who will vote Republican despite the fact that McCain is McBush, despite all that is at risk.  I think McCain was a good senator and I respected him for his standing up for what he believed in.  Past tense, now he, too has gone right, to try to get the Evangelical vote.  I vote for Obama because I believe he is who he says he is.

All due respect to my friends who will disagree with this, but I wouldn't be true to myself to sit and listen to the debate and not pipe up with my own opinion.  So I respectfully pipe up and tell you what I think.

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French Retro Tunes.

  • Jun. 3rd, 2008 at 11:59 AM
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 Terre by Charles Trenet is one of my most recent iPod downloads (both for me and my francophone kids).  We discovered it on the soundtrack for an environmental kids puppet show The Man who Planted Trees, performed by a good friend and great Edinburgh puppeteer Rick Conte.  Anyway, I assumed it was somehow about farming, the words being a bit unclear in spots.  But in fact it's about Christopher Columbus, with thinly veiled allusions to the Occupation, under which is was published.  Subversion through chicken sounds!  I love it.  I also love BOUM.

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My new favorite slogan

  • May. 30th, 2008 at 12:43 PM
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Seen at a shoe repair stand near my office:

Time Wounds All Heels

hee!

(oops can one not change the font on here??)

Awesome wifeliness

  • May. 28th, 2008 at 1:31 PM
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I just bought Ced's birthday present - a barbecue, with all the accoutrements.  In fact I got all the accoutrements (glove, tools, fish turner) x2 so we can take a set to the country.  I hope he loves it!  It'll make it feel just a little more like summer here.  We need all the help we can get.

I hate cancer

  • May. 18th, 2008 at 9:56 PM
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I spent the weekend with Fiona, who is doing well.

Then I came home, and another healthy-lifestyle girlfriend, who had b-cancer five years ago, called to tell me that it's spread to her spine, sternum, hips, ribs, lymph system.  I've just been crying and crying.  She's on her own, no partner, they told her no surgery, no radio, no chemo.  She'll hear more about treatment and her own cases responsiveness over the next week or so.  I wish there was something I could do but she lives in MN.  Maybe I'll send a plant or something.  Just so she knows I'm think of her all the time.

My head is killing me.  Cedric informed me he's had an aching bone in his coccyx for some time and he thinks he needs an MRI.  I feel like throwing up.

Entertaining

  • May. 11th, 2008 at 10:45 AM
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I did some serious entertaining.  There were cocktails and roses.  There were candles, there was outdoor eating (rare as gold in London!).  There were our two couples of french neighbors.  There was love!  It's really nice - we have such great neighbors and it's great to be part of a street-community like that.

And for my foodies, here is the menu:

olives
artichoke crostinis
chips and homemade salsa

lambs lettuce salad with bresaolo and parmesan and balsamic

jumbo shrimp in a lemon/parsley/garlic marinade
Cod in a chili garlic marinade
Zucchinis stuffed with zuke, capers, anchovies, tomato, olives, dotted with mozzarella

Wines- rose and white.

angelfood cake (bought) and strawberries (tis the season).


YUMMERS!!

Finns Unite!

  • May. 9th, 2008 at 2:58 PM
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and recommend me a good, not too expensive hotel in HELSINKI!
The only cool one I see is the Klaus K but it might be out of my budget....

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